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Have we lost our village? You know the saying, “It takes a village to raise a child”? As a mom of two young kids, I’m really feeling the absence of that village. While we have a few people who can lend a hand now and then, it’s not the same as having a robust support system.

Charel and I remember growing up surrounded by extended family and friends who felt like family. It wasn’t just about blood relations; it was about community. We’d call our close friends of our parents “Aunt” or “Uncle,” which solidified network of care and support we operated our lives in. Nowadays, that tight-knit community seems to be fading, especially with the rise of social media, which often gives a false sense of belonging.

Real-life community and support can’t be replaced by online smiles with heart eyes and thumbs ups. I’ve seen firsthand how people can be quick to criticize or “cancel” you online, which is quite different from the understanding and respect you get from genuine relationships. This lack of real connection can leave us feeling isolated, especially as times grow more challenging.

During the pandemic, we recorded a podcast episode discussing the importance of a real community. When we were shut in from the outside world, it became even more apparent how we lacked a true community. People were more hesitant to engage in person, leading to increased feelings of isolation. Social media and Zoom might have connected us virtually, but it doesn’t provide the tangible connection we sometimes desperately need. For example when someone is being harmed on the street, and instead of lending a helping hand, bystanders pull out their phones to film.

There are countless benefits to having a village. Imagine pooling resources with loved ones, sharing meals, and reducing the financial and emotional burdens on individual families. My wife and I often reflect on how our mother’s always had extra kids over our home during the summer. It wasn’t just about babysitting; it was about creating a supportive environment where everyone shared the load.

Charel and I have committed to fostering that sense of community in our own lives starting with those God has led us to. Community is not just about having a roof over our heads; it’s about sharing a space, time, or lending to those with a need, offering more than just a temporary solution but a real sense of belonging.

My wife and I have concluded that building the village we are looking for starts with us- in our hearts and in our home. It means reaching out, offering help, and being open to forming genuine connections. The benefits are immeasurable, from emotional support to practical assistance, and ultimately, creating a world where the one’s around us don’t feel like they have to face life’s challenges alone. Let’s strive to reclaim our villages and foster communities that truly support one another.

We hope this article has inspired you to reflect on the importance of community and the potential each of us has to rekindle the spirit of the village in our modern lives. To delve deeper into these ideas, we invite you to listen to the About This Love podcast episode 67, where we discuss practical ways to strengthen our communities and share heartfelt stories of connection and support.

As you listen, consider these questions: How can you contribute to building a stronger community in your area? What small actions can you take today to foster deeper connections with those God has called to you? How have your own experiences shaped your understanding of community?

We encourage you to join the conversation by sharing your thoughts and stories. Let’s work together to create a more connected, compassionate world. Tune in, engage with us, and let’s rediscover the power of our village together.