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Have you ever had someone tell you to “live a little”—to make a spontaneous decision, jump into an opportunity, or take a leap without overthinking? While that advice can sometimes be well-meaning, it’s important to ask: Is it truly coming from a place of wisdom, or is it shaped by someone else’s regrets?

Too often, people give advice based on what they wish they had done differently. They see someone younger and think, “If I could go back, I would do things this way.” But the reality is, every life path is different. What worked—or didn’t work—for someone else may not be the right choice for you.

This is why it’s crucial to take a step back and truly consider the weight of your decisions. Do you really want to take that job, or are you just feeling pressured? Is this relationship right for you, or are you rushing into it because you think you should? Are you choosing a certain path because it aligns with your values, or because social media makes it seem like the “thing to do”?

We live in a culture that encourages quick decisions, instant gratification, and a “figure it out later” mentality. But what if we slowed down and sought true wisdom? What if we learned from those who have walked the road before us—not to copy their mistakes or regrets, but to gain real tools for success?

Marriage, family, career, and personal growth all require preparation. Just as a mechanic needs the right tools to fix a car, we need the right knowledge and mindset to build a strong foundation for our lives. Unfortunately, our society doesn’t always equip us with those tools. Colleges don’t offer courses on how to have a successful marriage. Schools don’t teach the value of building a strong family unit. And many people enter major life decisions without guidance, only to struggle later.

But we don’t have to walk blindly. We can learn from those who have gone before us. Surrounding ourselves with wise counsel—whether mentors, family, or faith-based communities—can help us avoid unnecessary pitfalls. Instead of simply adopting the thoughts and habits of the culture around us, we can intentionally seek out perspectives that align with our values.

Philippians 4:8 reminds us: “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” This verse encourages us to fill our minds with truth and wisdom, rather than blindly accepting the world’s messaging.

So, the next time you find yourself at a crossroads, pause and reflect. Are your thoughts truly your own? Are your decisions aligned with your God-given purpose? Seek wisdom, surround yourself with truth, and make choices that will build a strong foundation for your future.